along the way .... the path...the journey...The Story!

The end !

2010-02-09T20:39:00.000-08:00

Yes, the couple has decided to move on.... They are not fighting to stay on the path where others tell them who they are....but rather, they are moving forward each day, to a new chapter, a new beginning every morning.

The new chapter of their thoughts are now available at http://patresa-street.blogspot.com/ ... =)

Stay tune, readers ........... =) ...This blog will always be a history, a lesson learned, and a full-of dramatic blogging experience to them. Let's wish the new chapter will be a good one! .....

-The End Of The Little Family Story-

over...moving on...=)

2010-01-27T01:38:00.000-08:00

The couple is in dilemma if they should open up this blog again for the public to view and to set the comment moderation to avoid all the mess up in this blog.

Those mess lasted for a week, and finally yea.... it's over!*** hopefully ! .... The couple move on with their lives, living happily again in their little hut. Enjoying the time of two, and their hearts are always looking forward to see their son- lucas. =) ... Back to normal as how they were. Looking forward to the coming chinese new year and celebrate with joy and laughter together with their lovely son and family. Wishing for 2010, the year of tiger is a smooth sailing year...healthy and wealthy, of coz !

Badddddddddddd things goooooo far far far away from the little family !!! .... ***K OFF .... =))

stay tune, for their upcoming plans, decisions............. ciaoz.

To Readers...

2010-01-20T17:48:00.000-08:00

Dear Readers,
I apology for all the mess up comments in this blog. I was away for a day to have a time of my own.

Yes, comment moderation is set.=) ..... Will delete the comments posted soon. I hope "you" understand... This is my place for me to express my feelings. If there's any untrue story, I will welcome you to talk to me personally rather than being an anonymous. It does not do any good to you and me. I believe you have done enough to express your feelings here, else give me a call or meet me up, we can just talk about it. I also believe, all of us are adults, and we work as a professional, so, I hope, everyone is rational enough on what is the objectives / intentions before comment is written down.

Cheeway, Thank you for being so supportive. =) .... yea, let's arrange to meet up! ....

P/s: If I'm saying I'm OK, that gonna be a big joke ! .... All these, does hurt me and my husband. But, what important most, is still our relationship and our famlily.

stay tune !~

Interesting Commenter

2010-01-19T08:31:00.000-08:00

welcome back psychic for your continuous support by commenting on each entry. Both the couple do appreciate your work and your writing. They understand your loneliness, your fear and your emptiness in life, as well as your feelings deep inside your heart. They believe there's a lot of tricks floating in your mind. They are worry if you will become schizophrenia. If you do need help, don't hesitate to consult psychiatrist. They will definitely help you through. They don't mind if you would like to dirty up a little on this blog by expressing your feeling, if it does help you. Good sleep and rest well !!! .... May god bless you... =)

To Anonymous...

2010-01-18T20:33:00.000-08:00

Firstly, she would love to thanks for visiting her page, and of course spending some time on her writing. Being a loyal reader probably? or being a stalker in her little family? since it's posted publicly in the internet world, so, they are not stalker ! ...... Thanks, Loyal Reader.

"i feel so embarrassed to even comment on your post... but thank god i can remain anonymous" ==> Don't do it when you don't feel too ..... remaining anonymous, because you are coward? or because you dare not to reveal your own personality? ....Anyway, thanks for reading yea!
to this anonymous, i would advise, observe less, care less, and most of all, you don't need to be too emotional if you ain't one of the mentioned character on the previous post....unless, you "tersingung" or "tertekan" .....and you feel something out of it....On how I treat my loved one, it's definitely none of your business at all !! .... The real friends of the husband will not only accept him but to also accept the wife as one... =) ... And definitely, you can't find another me in this world...Ain't everyone is unique even they are twin .... Thanks for the fact, and my readers know the fact well since they are little...
"Looks like you failed us" ... I don't need to please anyone besides my family ..... =) ...I am sorry and I apology for i failed you! .... Because I never mean to act anything to please you, afterall ...

"Should the little girl maintains the comments posted, BINGO!!! she FINALLY traps you to bitch about her" , To the well wisher, seems like you know me well ..... =) .... Someone just couldn't stand ppl of having a good life... =)

"As to The Well Wisher, shut your bloody mouth if you know NUTS about the real situation !!" ah ha..... Seems like someone pretending or act like, AS IF he/she knows her well ....Good one... but, don't scold my readers....mind your words ... everyone is thinking differently...

"PROBLEM WILL END ONLY IF WHAT YOU SAID WAS TRUE AND YOUR HUSBAND REALLY LOVE YOU! " .... hmmm, let's pray for the problem ending soon ...since ppl are starting revealing themselves..... and just a post, ppl start to defend themselves...

"a married WOMAN called herself a little girl?" ...hmmm, seems like you didn't read the profile till the end...read it once again!, i hope it's not too hard to understand....

"What do u mean "used and tear"[Torn]? Pat is a gentle lover."....yea, pat is....=)

All in all, Thanks for reading and commenting !~ ..... Stay tune =)

BeTtEr BondInG ThrOuGh SoLviNg IssUes..

2010-01-13T21:26:00.000-08:00

Since the starts of their relationship, people who surround them has been betting for how long the relationship will last...Especially those who are so-call "good friend" ... All sort of things done to them. Firstly by hurting the wife name through creating story after story. Then all these people found that their effort is just a waste, and the worst thing they did was approaching the in-law to not only hurting the wife by the wife family as well. She would says, she is very glad to have a wise parent in law who are not being much influence by all these cruel act. When they realize their effort are just effortless, here they come again to lecture the wife during her most unstable emotion. It wasn't easy for her to just keep it deep inside her heart, by not defending on every single thing that they did to her. But, when all these step over her limit, she burst out. She just feel as lucky when she confronted all her feeling to her husband, and her husband have the same thought toward all these people who tried hard to destroy them. He stands next to her, support her and believe in her.

Insulting surely hurts, whether that person is on purpose or just for jokes. No one realize how sad she was, besides her own husband. But, to avoid creating problem, they keep silent. However, the wife couldn't stand of having such insulting, as the more she thought of it, she felt, it's best to inform that person, those words hurt. This is to stop having another insult in the future. Slight arguement between the husband and wife. Eventually, the husband agreed. Those insulting words should stop from NOW and it's not a good choice to wait for the second time to happen....

All the things happened, bring them lot of sadness. They did argue over the issue, over the consequences of each acts, and what things best to maintain their relationship from being destroyed. Big argument, small arguement ..... which family doesn't have? But, the most of all this bring them to understand each other better....She did feel really glad of having all the things happened though it wasn't something pleasant .... Things happened for a reason, and she believes the reason being for all these are to teach them a lesson to be truthful to each other, to be more understanding, and to be a loving couple for the rest of their life.

2009 X'mas has over, & 2010 New year has past....The present...

2010-01-13T20:58:00.000-08:00

Happy belated x'mas, new year & holiday seasons, to all the readers ~! .... She wishes everyone with smooth sailing year ahead, and happiness always be with each other.
A month has flies off since the last entry in this blog. To her, everything seem just as ordinary as usual. Not much of changes, and she is still focusing well. Staying with her husband & the prince in all festive season is the thing she wishes for in the coming years.

Her resolution?....... None for this year!..... Just do her best in all the role she is playing in the family, being a daughter, sister, wife, mother, daughter-in-law and of course as a sister-in-law as well.... not to forget...... being an employeeeeeee.... Yes, not trying to be a good friend this time round... for friendship, she would like to follow the flow... Whoever choose to be with her, will always be with her.... to accept her in every way she is ....

For the past one month, she was struggling with her emotions. For some unknown reason, she was feeling down, sad, and hopeless... Negative thinking, and thought, and behavior shown to her husband. With continuous support to each other, encouragement, they went through that "bad" moments together. Thanks god! ...

For once, she thought of changing the whole current environment. Leaving the place and moving to a brand new environment that would probably bring her to know her life better in term of family and career.

It's all Over, it has Past..... for NOW, she is learning to be more focus in her life, be more determine, and be more responsible. =) ....

Sincere Visit...Thanks DHL-ian...

2009-12-17T05:15:00.001-08:00

This post is mean for the wife's ex-colleagues. She does feeling glad of having some sincere visit by this bunch of ppl. They did enlighten her day. For the 9 months of working in DHL, this bunch of ppl have came into her life. She wasn't expecting much from them. To her, this bunch of ppl, are the ppl she used to hang around during her working time in DHL. Those time, when they were having lunch together, tagging along for a few outings, and a few chat during their free time. But, today, this bunch of ppl did not forget her, eventhough she has left the company for 8 months ! Instead, they still treating her so well as a family to them. They have purposely drop by at Teluk Intan to pay her and baby lucas a visit. It's a short visit, but it does mean a lot to her.

Thanks, ppl! .... and Jess, for the very meaning entry on her blog with the beautiful pictures and video of baby lucas!

http://jesslim.blogspot.com/2009/12/special-dedication-post-to-tan-family.html

Once DHL-ian, forever DHL-ian, regardless of where we will be in the future....She is really happy and glad of knowing this bunch of friends !! ...

10th December 2009

2009-12-17T04:59:00.001-08:00

10th December 2009 - 7th month marriage anniversary for the couple, and it also marked down the day of baby lucas' fullmoon. The couple, thanks god once again for having a loving family they had build as well as baby lucas is all healthy, safe and sound! ... Let's pray their loving family will continue to move on and baby lucas stay healthy all the way ... =)

In law held a fullmoon party for baby lucas. Everyone in the family came home, many visits from friends and family. Thank you for attending, for the pressie and for the beautiful sincere hearts, and for their sincere best wishes !

She is here, to thanks a few sincere friends, who heard her all the way... being so supportive to her, and being so encouraging. =)

The sleepless nights

2009-12-15T18:44:00.000-08:00

It was a sleepless night to everyone in the family when baby lucas was admitted to hospital. The mother is required to stay over at the hospital to look after her own little prince. It was her first time in life taking care of a child. Carrying and feeding her prince all by her own in that very fine night.

Whilst, the family was so worry about the mother on handling the prince, they as well have very little sleep on that night.

Due to lack of experience in taking of a baby by the wife, baby lucas was fall sick after discharge from hospital. It took a few days for baby lucas to recover, and that very few days have caused the whole family with sleepless nights! ...

With the family helps and loves, the couple do feel very thankful. Thanks god ... =)

The care, The love and The different mindset,...

2009-11-29T17:48:00.000-08:00

Everyone in the family, love the new member. The sacrifices of every member to baby lucas is with no doubt at all.

Due to different mindset, and experience of life, everyone has their own thought and way of doing things. To the parent in law, it wasn't a good idea to leave the baby all alone in the hospital eventhough with the good care of nurses and doctor, eventhough, both the couple is only manage to waited outside of the ward. But, as a parent, both the couple should have always be with the baby...
To both the couple, with the good care of nurses and doctor, it's a good idea to go home, take a warm bath and have some rest before going back to the hospital.... This idea could be due to their logical thinking, but with lack of wisdom as how the father in law always reminded them...

There were slight arguement in the family, but after all, everyone understand ... The couple regret, and feel sorry of their behavior. Accept the advises by the father in law. Thanks, it's the learning process of being a good parent...

The sleepless night ....coming up soon..

Jaundice...

2009-11-29T17:02:00.000-08:00

13th November 2009 - On the 4th day of the arrival of baby lucas, a few nurses from Pusat Kesihatan came by to check the baby and the mum. Mummy was all Ok besides of a little high blood pressure due to lack of sleep. However, baby was suspected of having jaundice. Everyone in the family was really worry. Daddy without thinking twice, sent baby lucas for check up together with mother in law. As he is having 14mg/dl, therefore, daddy was advised to send the son for admission at Hospital Teluk Intan. Not long after, the wife received call from hubby saying, she is required to be with the baby for breastfeeding. The wife immediately pack her stuffs and waited for hubby to come home.

As she was in the hospital, the baby was still under the care of nurses and doctor. She went into the baby ward, and check out her little son. The son was crying out loud lying under the UV light, and her heart was in real pain. Again, she couldn't hold her tears. She was weak, hubby was holding her. Parent in law were back home for a rest as they are already tired of running upside down.

At government hospital, all the mother are advised to breastfeed and bottle feed is not allow. Therefore, mummy was ask to go into baby's ward to breastfeed her son. There after, baby lucas fall asleep and back to the care of nurses and doctor. While the husband and wife waited outside of the baby ward, both decided to make a move home, to get a warm bath and rested before coming back to hospital...

Parent in law were shocked seeing both the couple at home, while the baby was left in the hospital all alone. They were shocked, disappointed and sad with the both couple's decision to come home by leaving the dear grandson alone at hospital....

more stories coming up...

The wife.....

2009-11-26T02:20:00.000-08:00

Most of the time, the wife potrait herself in her happy go lucky character. It wasn't her to always think at the negative side. On the third day of the arrival of baby lucas, she couldn't stand the mixture feeling that she is having. Her tears keep dropping down from her eyes since morning, till evening.

Her sudden change in her life, make her a little confuse, and worried. Her unsettled family issues has bring her lot of sadness. She is begging for forgiveness. begging for the family to understand her. begging for everyone to bless with her decision.

She never care on how bad some people have been talking right behind her. She treated everyone with her true heart. And yet, some would like to hurt her from behind. She knows, everything better than everyonelse who have been escalating rumours. She knows who is her true friend that surround her and keep supporting her during her hard time. She never care at all, all these while. But, now, she have a sudden feeling of fear. Fear that, these ppl will hurt her family once again. Fear that, these ppl will do anything bad on her. It's hard for her to give her trust to these ppl anymore. All these, keep playing in her mind. She needs a peace of mind. She thanks for having some real good friend whose heard her. Those friends are her counsellor, that give good advice, good words, encourage her regardless of how busy they are. Those friends, are the friends who knows so well about her....unlike some real faky friend that she is having.

She went to church..... to clear her mind. And she believe, doing good in everyway she could, without hurting anyone, would help her to get her blessing. =) ...

The arrival HOME...11th Nov 2009

2009-11-25T04:25:00.000-08:00

The wife could only stay on the bed the whole day yesterday. couldn't move around. Hubby was sleeping sweetly right beside her. Wife had nightmares after nightmares throughout the night. Her whole body sweat badly due to all the nightmares that she had. She awake almost every hour and hoping for the sky to get bright the next day. 6AM in the morning, a midwife came in to remove the urethra, as well as the IV supply that inject to her hand. She was trying hard to move her body. Hoping to go home on this very day. 8AM in the morning, a midwife came in again to help her to get off from the bed. It was the another moment that she will remember. The pain was so terrible and bad, but she knows she has to do it. Without thinking twice and screaming for the pain, she tried very hard to start her first move after delivery. Thanks god, her husband was always by her side to support her. The pain slowly moved away after a few move by walking around.

Not long after, the couple get ready to go home, packing their belongings, settle the bills, visit baby lucas and changing baby lucas' into his very first clothes....In law was here at the right time... =)

The journey home was a painful experience for the wife. As the road was not smooth back home, her wound was in badly pain. She stands the pain for about an hour plus to arrive home. She did not yell for the pain, because she knows, nothing much she or the husband can do at that very moment. She is just hoping to arrive home as soon as possible.

Arriving home, the home was in total mess. Everyone in the family was too excited to welcome the new member. Preparing baby lucas to bed, his milk, and every single little thing that he needs...They don't know, what's the best thing for the little one. Everyone was just so nervous on the first day of his arrival! ...

more stories happening on the incoming days.... stay tune... =)

10th November 2009, 1022 am ...

2009-11-23T20:13:00.000-08:00

The minute both the couple heard a baby cries, is the minute where their son- Tan Lucas is out to see the beautiful world, 10th November 2009, 1022 AM. And that minute also marked down their first minute of moving into parenthood. Their warm and loving kiss to their son ... The couple couldn't hold back their tears, the tears of LOVE, automatically burst out.

Mother-in-law and the hubby was finally feels relieve, knowing that both the mother and the child is now healthy. with no major complication and disabilities. It was a smooth process afterall. Wife was shivering even before she enter the operation now, and keep shivering throughout the process until it took an hour after the operation to get the shivered off her body. She couldn't believe, she is now a mother, and she is able to manage the pain of injection after injection to her.

The wife was in dilemma when she was sent back to the ward staying in a single bedded room. She also feel really thankful, when she arrived in the room, the mother-in-law and the husband is always stay by her side on that moment. She do appreciate of having a loving and caring hubby who did a real good job. The hubby, never ever left her alone throughout her pregnancy and neither did he leaving her alone throughout the giving birth process.

Father-in-law is finally here, after knowing his grandson has arrived. The parent-in-law left in the evening.

Leaving the wife and husband. Holding each other hand, in silent... it's a silent of relieve, silent of the new chapter of their lives have begin. The baby is fetched to their room by a midwife. The feeling of joy when seeing their little baby couldn't be describe in a word. The smile on the couple's face, was the smile deeply from their heart. 2 persons hearts combined to become a lovely heart of their child...

The little family's story begin on this day!

The arrival of Tan Lucas

2009-11-23T04:14:00.000-08:00

It's totally a life changing experience for the couple. Their biggest day seems to change from one to another. It's no longer their own birth date as the most important day, ain't the day of their graduation, and neither the day they started off their relationship. The most memorable day and eventful for the both, is the day of their marriage and the arrival of their son-Tan Lucas.

10th May 2009, the couple tied the knot. It wasn't a big celebration, wasn't the grand wedding dinner at the cruise, wasn't any wedding of a fairy tale story. Indeed, it's a celebration of LOVE. The love that they have build, the love that make them stay together regardless of any objection. Rumours escalating everywhere, but yet, they are still staying at each other arms. They are very thankful about all the bad things happened. As this shown, their love is true. The most of all, they have trust on each other, no matter how badly the rumours escalate on here and there.

On the very good morning of 10th November 2009, the couple was really exciting to welcome their son. Wife was having sleepless night. Besides the couple, the parent in law too, was very exciting. Everyone woke up at 5am. Get ready, and they start the journey to Hospital. It just took an hour drive to arrive. Getting admission done, and there they go into the maternity ward at 7am. The wife was first enter the labour room. Hubby and mother in law stay outside to wait for everything to settle. Wife change into labour dress. taken off everything, from jewellery till the under garment. She couldn't control her emotion. Getting more and more nervous on each second passing by. Midwife invite the husband to the labour room. And not long after, the wife was sent to operation room. The husband was ask to change into operation dress as well, covering the whole body inclusive of his hair.

While waiting to fetch into operation room, the wife burst into tears. Very nervous yet very excited. She feels really good with the company of her hubby. Comforting her and trying his very best to calm her down. The waiting just last for about 20 minutes. And she was fetched into operation room.

The process of c-sec begin.
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1) 2 injections at the back - anaesthetic which is to number the half body & pain killer which will last for 2 hours after injection.

2) Lying down on the operation bed

3) Foot started to get numb

4) Hubby came into operation room sitting next to the wife, holding her hand tighly.

5) Dr ooi started off the operation.

6) In less than 30 minutes, wife and hubby can hear a baby cries ! ....Tan Lucas is out from the womb to see the world at 1022 am on 10th november 2009 !!! ....

7) Midwife brought the baby to mummy, and the first kiss was given by mum seconded by dad ! ....

8) Hubby was send out from the operation room.

9) The wife was left alone for about 1 hour for heartbeat, & blood pressure monitoring in ensuring everything is normal before sending back to the ward.

10) After the stability period, the wife was sent back to the ward. =)

....The whole process took less than 2 hours to complete ! ...

to be continue...

A day before the arrival of Tan Lucas

2009-11-22T17:24:00.000-08:00

9th Nov 2009.. 8am in the morning, wife and hubby decided to bring the little creature into this world, after a whole night long thought. No more waiting at home... instead, the couple has ready to welcome their little son... Ready to be daddy and mummy, the parenthood. The parent to be...

Had their breakfast at Tesco, Mutiara damansara. Make an appointment with Dr ooi, gynae from Pantai Hospital Ipoh. And there they go ..... heading back to Ipoh. Mixed feeling throughout the trip. Excited, happy, anxious, worry, scared and etc etc. Couldn't really describe the exact feeling... During the journey, there were silent at times. A sudden drip of tears, a sudden laughter .... None of the word could describe their emotions. Hubby driving slow... To enjoy the time of 2. After this day, there's no longer the life of 2 persons. They flashed back their memories when they were together. The joy, the excitement that they have gone through. The secretive love stories that hide behind everyonelse. The marriage that bring lot of hassle with only 2 months of preparation.

Arriving at the destination, Pantai Hospital, first of all, they were looking for Dr ooi Clinic. Waited for an hour, as it was lunch time. During the waiting time, they visited the maternity ward. Single bedded room, the baby room, getting information from the ward assistant. All look good.... Dr ooi is finally here after his long hour lunch time. =P ... They consulted the gynae. And the conversation last for an hour long. Very detailed explanation about the whole process of giving birth via c-sec. The pros over cons via c-sec and natural birth. Arranging for the time of delivery. And the couple decided to give birth the next day early morning. The second patient or the second parent to be on 10th Nov 2009 at pantai hospital via c-sec. The schedule time is at 9am. However, they have to get admitted by 7am in the morning. Argh, before they left, mummy has to do another blood test. If any close friends, who knows the mum well, she never fail to scream or cries even before the needle approach her skin. She was the tiny little girl who really scared of needle, and the pain. 9th nov, marked down another special event... The first time, the mummy never yell for the pain during the injection for blood test. It was one of the biggest achievement to her. Instead, she smiled.... The pain is no longer the pain that she used to experience... The pain of the injection is the joy to be for the new family . ! A very memorable day ...

Heading home ...back to teluk intan, announcing the news to the family. The new baby boy is coming out tomorrow ! ... Wife and hubby do the last minute shopping for baby lucas. Choosing milk powder for the baby .... =) .. Life seems started to change at this moment.
The couple decided to sleep early that evening. The next day, they will need to awake at 5am in the morning, and start the journey to welcome the little creature. =) ... However, the mummy-to-be couldn't fall asleep....for the whole night !! ... Lot of things playing in her mind. Trying hard to fall asleep, but with no avail. Lying on the bed the whole night, and wait for 5am ....Keep looking at the clock ticking ....

And the day has come .......10th November 2009 ! ...

The little family of Three....

2009-11-22T05:42:00.000-08:00

This blog is mean for the little family. The happiness that they gonna go through as well as the sadness that they gonna get over in their family life. Life wouldn't be so beautiful everyday. That's the fact afterall.

10th Nov marked down the most memorable day for this little family. The little creature has finally come in to see the world. The beautiful world yet the polluted one. Tan Lucas, the baby of Patrick Tan and Teresa Chin.

The expected due date for Lucas to see the world is supposed to be on 26th November. However, daddy and mummy decided to give birth on the day of their marriage, which is on the 10th. This bundle of joy, marked down the gift to the family from above. Thanks, god! The arrival of the little one brought the couple with lots of memories..... Smile, laugh, cries....tears drops deeply from the hearts of 2 persons.

To be continue...