Sunday, November 29, 2009

The care, The love and The different mindset,...

Everyone in the family, love the new member. The sacrifices of every member to baby lucas is with no doubt at all.

Due to different mindset, and experience of life, everyone has their own thought and way of doing things. To the parent in law, it wasn't a good idea to leave the baby all alone in the hospital eventhough with the good care of nurses and doctor, eventhough, both the couple is only manage to waited outside of the ward. But, as a parent, both the couple should have always be with the baby...
To both the couple, with the good care of nurses and doctor, it's a good idea to go home, take a warm bath and have some rest before going back to the hospital.... This idea could be due to their logical thinking, but with lack of wisdom as how the father in law always reminded them...

There were slight arguement in the family, but after all, everyone understand ... The couple regret, and feel sorry of their behavior. Accept the advises by the father in law. Thanks, it's the learning process of being a good parent...

The sleepless night ....coming up soon..

Jaundice...

13th November 2009 - On the 4th day of the arrival of baby lucas, a few nurses from Pusat Kesihatan came by to check the baby and the mum. Mummy was all Ok besides of a little high blood pressure due to lack of sleep. However, baby was suspected of having jaundice. Everyone in the family was really worry. Daddy without thinking twice, sent baby lucas for check up together with mother in law. As he is having 14mg/dl, therefore, daddy was advised to send the son for admission at Hospital Teluk Intan. Not long after, the wife received call from hubby saying, she is required to be with the baby for breastfeeding. The wife immediately pack her stuffs and waited for hubby to come home.

As she was in the hospital, the baby was still under the care of nurses and doctor. She went into the baby ward, and check out her little son. The son was crying out loud lying under the UV light, and her heart was in real pain. Again, she couldn't hold her tears. She was weak, hubby was holding her. Parent in law were back home for a rest as they are already tired of running upside down.

At government hospital, all the mother are advised to breastfeed and bottle feed is not allow. Therefore, mummy was ask to go into baby's ward to breastfeed her son. There after, baby lucas fall asleep and back to the care of nurses and doctor. While the husband and wife waited outside of the baby ward, both decided to make a move home, to get a warm bath and rested before coming back to hospital...

Parent in law were shocked seeing both the couple at home, while the baby was left in the hospital all alone. They were shocked, disappointed and sad with the both couple's decision to come home by leaving the dear grandson alone at hospital....

more stories coming up...

Thursday, November 26, 2009

The wife.....

Most of the time, the wife potrait herself in her happy go lucky character. It wasn't her to always think at the negative side. On the third day of the arrival of baby lucas, she couldn't stand the mixture feeling that she is having. Her tears keep dropping down from her eyes since morning, till evening.

Her sudden change in her life, make her a little confuse, and worried. Her unsettled family issues has bring her lot of sadness. She is begging for forgiveness. begging for the family to understand her. begging for everyone to bless with her decision.

She never care on how bad some people have been talking right behind her. She treated everyone with her true heart. And yet, some would like to hurt her from behind. She knows, everything better than everyonelse who have been escalating rumours. She knows who is her true friend that surround her and keep supporting her during her hard time. She never care at all, all these while. But, now, she have a sudden feeling of fear. Fear that, these ppl will hurt her family once again. Fear that, these ppl will do anything bad on her. It's hard for her to give her trust to these ppl anymore. All these, keep playing in her mind. She needs a peace of mind. She thanks for having some real good friend whose heard her. Those friends are her counsellor, that give good advice, good words, encourage her regardless of how busy they are. Those friends, are the friends who knows so well about her....unlike some real faky friend that she is having.

She went to church..... to clear her mind. And she believe, doing good in everyway she could, without hurting anyone, would help her to get her blessing. =) ...

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

The arrival HOME...11th Nov 2009

The wife could only stay on the bed the whole day yesterday. couldn't move around. Hubby was sleeping sweetly right beside her. Wife had nightmares after nightmares throughout the night. Her whole body sweat badly due to all the nightmares that she had. She awake almost every hour and hoping for the sky to get bright the next day. 6AM in the morning, a midwife came in to remove the urethra, as well as the IV supply that inject to her hand. She was trying hard to move her body. Hoping to go home on this very day. 8AM in the morning, a midwife came in again to help her to get off from the bed. It was the another moment that she will remember. The pain was so terrible and bad, but she knows she has to do it. Without thinking twice and screaming for the pain, she tried very hard to start her first move after delivery. Thanks god, her husband was always by her side to support her. The pain slowly moved away after a few move by walking around.

Not long after, the couple get ready to go home, packing their belongings, settle the bills, visit baby lucas and changing baby lucas' into his very first clothes....In law was here at the right time... =)

The journey home was a painful experience for the wife. As the road was not smooth back home, her wound was in badly pain. She stands the pain for about an hour plus to arrive home. She did not yell for the pain, because she knows, nothing much she or the husband can do at that very moment. She is just hoping to arrive home as soon as possible.

Arriving home, the home was in total mess. Everyone in the family was too excited to welcome the new member. Preparing baby lucas to bed, his milk, and every single little thing that he needs...They don't know, what's the best thing for the little one. Everyone was just so nervous on the first day of his arrival! ...

more stories happening on the incoming days.... stay tune... =)

Monday, November 23, 2009

10th November 2009, 1022 am ...

The minute both the couple heard a baby cries, is the minute where their son- Tan Lucas is out to see the beautiful world, 10th November 2009, 1022 AM. And that minute also marked down their first minute of moving into parenthood. Their warm and loving kiss to their son ... The couple couldn't hold back their tears, the tears of LOVE, automatically burst out.

Mother-in-law and the hubby was finally feels relieve, knowing that both the mother and the child is now healthy. with no major complication and disabilities. It was a smooth process afterall. Wife was shivering even before she enter the operation now, and keep shivering throughout the process until it took an hour after the operation to get the shivered off her body. She couldn't believe, she is now a mother, and she is able to manage the pain of injection after injection to her.

The wife was in dilemma when she was sent back to the ward staying in a single bedded room. She also feel really thankful, when she arrived in the room, the mother-in-law and the husband is always stay by her side on that moment. She do appreciate of having a loving and caring hubby who did a real good job. The hubby, never ever left her alone throughout her pregnancy and neither did he leaving her alone throughout the giving birth process.

Father-in-law is finally here, after knowing his grandson has arrived. The parent-in-law left in the evening.

Leaving the wife and husband. Holding each other hand, in silent... it's a silent of relieve, silent of the new chapter of their lives have begin. The baby is fetched to their room by a midwife. The feeling of joy when seeing their little baby couldn't be describe in a word. The smile on the couple's face, was the smile deeply from their heart. 2 persons hearts combined to become a lovely heart of their child...

The little family's story begin on this day!

The arrival of Tan Lucas

It's totally a life changing experience for the couple. Their biggest day seems to change from one to another. It's no longer their own birth date as the most important day, ain't the day of their graduation, and neither the day they started off their relationship. The most memorable day and eventful for the both, is the day of their marriage and the arrival of their son-Tan Lucas.

10th May 2009, the couple tied the knot. It wasn't a big celebration, wasn't the grand wedding dinner at the cruise, wasn't any wedding of a fairy tale story. Indeed, it's a celebration of LOVE. The love that they have build, the love that make them stay together regardless of any objection. Rumours escalating everywhere, but yet, they are still staying at each other arms. They are very thankful about all the bad things happened. As this shown, their love is true. The most of all, they have trust on each other, no matter how badly the rumours escalate on here and there.

On the very good morning of 10th November 2009, the couple was really exciting to welcome their son. Wife was having sleepless night. Besides the couple, the parent in law too, was very exciting. Everyone woke up at 5am. Get ready, and they start the journey to Hospital. It just took an hour drive to arrive. Getting admission done, and there they go into the maternity ward at 7am. The wife was first enter the labour room. Hubby and mother in law stay outside to wait for everything to settle. Wife change into labour dress. taken off everything, from jewellery till the under garment. She couldn't control her emotion. Getting more and more nervous on each second passing by. Midwife invite the husband to the labour room. And not long after, the wife was sent to operation room. The husband was ask to change into operation dress as well, covering the whole body inclusive of his hair.

While waiting to fetch into operation room, the wife burst into tears. Very nervous yet very excited. She feels really good with the company of her hubby. Comforting her and trying his very best to calm her down. The waiting just last for about 20 minutes. And she was fetched into operation room.

The process of c-sec begin.
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1) 2 injections at the back - anaesthetic which is to number the half body & pain killer which will last for 2 hours after injection.

2) Lying down on the operation bed

3) Foot started to get numb

4) Hubby came into operation room sitting next to the wife, holding her hand tighly.

5) Dr ooi started off the operation.

6) In less than 30 minutes, wife and hubby can hear a baby cries ! ....Tan Lucas is out from the womb to see the world at 1022 am on 10th november 2009 !!! ....

7) Midwife brought the baby to mummy, and the first kiss was given by mum seconded by dad ! ....

8) Hubby was send out from the operation room.

9) The wife was left alone for about 1 hour for heartbeat, & blood pressure monitoring in ensuring everything is normal before sending back to the ward.

10) After the stability period, the wife was sent back to the ward. =)

....The whole process took less than 2 hours to complete ! ...

to be continue...

Sunday, November 22, 2009

A day before the arrival of Tan Lucas

9th Nov 2009.. 8am in the morning, wife and hubby decided to bring the little creature into this world, after a whole night long thought. No more waiting at home... instead, the couple has ready to welcome their little son... Ready to be daddy and mummy, the parenthood. The parent to be...

Had their breakfast at Tesco, Mutiara damansara. Make an appointment with Dr ooi, gynae from Pantai Hospital Ipoh. And there they go ..... heading back to Ipoh. Mixed feeling throughout the trip. Excited, happy, anxious, worry, scared and etc etc. Couldn't really describe the exact feeling... During the journey, there were silent at times. A sudden drip of tears, a sudden laughter .... None of the word could describe their emotions. Hubby driving slow... To enjoy the time of 2. After this day, there's no longer the life of 2 persons. They flashed back their memories when they were together. The joy, the excitement that they have gone through. The secretive love stories that hide behind everyonelse. The marriage that bring lot of hassle with only 2 months of preparation.

Arriving at the destination, Pantai Hospital, first of all, they were looking for Dr ooi Clinic. Waited for an hour, as it was lunch time. During the waiting time, they visited the maternity ward. Single bedded room, the baby room, getting information from the ward assistant. All look good.... Dr ooi is finally here after his long hour lunch time. =P ... They consulted the gynae. And the conversation last for an hour long. Very detailed explanation about the whole process of giving birth via c-sec. The pros over cons via c-sec and natural birth. Arranging for the time of delivery. And the couple decided to give birth the next day early morning. The second patient or the second parent to be on 10th Nov 2009 at pantai hospital via c-sec. The schedule time is at 9am. However, they have to get admitted by 7am in the morning. Argh, before they left, mummy has to do another blood test. If any close friends, who knows the mum well, she never fail to scream or cries even before the needle approach her skin. She was the tiny little girl who really scared of needle, and the pain. 9th nov, marked down another special event... The first time, the mummy never yell for the pain during the injection for blood test. It was one of the biggest achievement to her. Instead, she smiled.... The pain is no longer the pain that she used to experience... The pain of the injection is the joy to be for the new family . ! A very memorable day ...

Heading home ...back to teluk intan, announcing the news to the family. The new baby boy is coming out tomorrow ! ... Wife and hubby do the last minute shopping for baby lucas. Choosing milk powder for the baby .... =) .. Life seems started to change at this moment.
The couple decided to sleep early that evening. The next day, they will need to awake at 5am in the morning, and start the journey to welcome the little creature. =) ... However, the mummy-to-be couldn't fall asleep....for the whole night !! ... Lot of things playing in her mind. Trying hard to fall asleep, but with no avail. Lying on the bed the whole night, and wait for 5am ....Keep looking at the clock ticking ....

And the day has come .......10th November 2009 ! ...

The little family of Three....

This blog is mean for the little family. The happiness that they gonna go through as well as the sadness that they gonna get over in their family life. Life wouldn't be so beautiful everyday. That's the fact afterall.

10th Nov marked down the most memorable day for this little family. The little creature has finally come in to see the world. The beautiful world yet the polluted one. Tan Lucas, the baby of Patrick Tan and Teresa Chin.

The expected due date for Lucas to see the world is supposed to be on 26th November. However, daddy and mummy decided to give birth on the day of their marriage, which is on the 10th. This bundle of joy, marked down the gift to the family from above. Thanks, god! The arrival of the little one brought the couple with lots of memories..... Smile, laugh, cries....tears drops deeply from the hearts of 2 persons.

To be continue...